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May. 1st, 2013 01:16 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mari4212I got annoyed with some of the comments I've been seeing about Jason Collins coming out as an openly gay athlete. More specifically, the men talking about how they're creeped out by the thought of a gay man being in the locker room with them. Especially when they simultaneously dismiss women pointing out that it's not like handling unwanted attention from men is something strange and new. I decided not to even bother engaging with this particular man, as he was handwaving away every other point everyone else in the comment thread was making in favor of talking about how this branch of gay panic was absolutely correct and should be the main point of discussion about openly gay athletes.
Instead, I'll rant here, and on my own facebook page:
You know, when I see (mostly) men freaking out about gay men being out around them, with the implication that the gay guy will not be able to control himself and not rape everyone he finds even moderately attractive, I really start to wonder about them. Because hello, you are also men who are sometimes around people you are attracted to. Are you not capable of controlling your actions? If you don't think men can handle being around people they think are hot without raping them, remind me never to be alone near you again.
If someone's comments or actions are creeping you out or feel threatening, absolutely call them out. But if you're just worried that a man is going to find you attractive when you're not into him, welcome to my half of the species, we've been dealing with that for centuries. Whine at me when you've been made to feel unsafe walking down the street in broad daylight, like I have on more than one occasion.
Instead, I'll rant here, and on my own facebook page:
You know, when I see (mostly) men freaking out about gay men being out around them, with the implication that the gay guy will not be able to control himself and not rape everyone he finds even moderately attractive, I really start to wonder about them. Because hello, you are also men who are sometimes around people you are attracted to. Are you not capable of controlling your actions? If you don't think men can handle being around people they think are hot without raping them, remind me never to be alone near you again.
If someone's comments or actions are creeping you out or feel threatening, absolutely call them out. But if you're just worried that a man is going to find you attractive when you're not into him, welcome to my half of the species, we've been dealing with that for centuries. Whine at me when you've been made to feel unsafe walking down the street in broad daylight, like I have on more than one occasion.