Social Life
Aug. 7th, 2012 09:43 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mari4212So this is confusing me, having a social life which is a thing that happens instead of a thing that does not happen.
Some of it is the normal stuff. I have two close friends who both live within an hour's drive of Dayton, sirutka here on livejournal and Dana, who has known me since we were both kids at camp together. Between the two of them, I had been going out and doing things once or twice a month.
And then in the end of the spring/beginning of summer, Dana tells me that her husband's best friend John has been asking if I was seeing anyone, would I be interested in hanging out? lady_tigerfish, you might remember him, he was at the Nano write-ins up at Nite Sky, the tall black guy.
I told Dana I wouldn't mind getting to know him, the little I'd talked with him he'd sounded nice and he was a geek, which at least gave us something to talk about. Cue a few double-dates, one single date, and a massive group date down to see Wicked with pretty much his entire friend group outside of Dana and Ellis.
It's been interesting, actually attempting to do the whole date thing. And simultaneously a little scary, because the last time we talked in person it sounded like he was feeling a lot more serious than I was a lot quicker. There's been a hiatus for the past month or so, car troubles for him and no car for me mean that we haven't had much in person contact. I think that's actually been good, it might slow things up a bit for him, and I was really getting to the point where I was worrying that I'd have to hurt him by saying that I wasn't feeling that intense yet. This is the bit where never doing the romance thing before gets difficult, I don't actually know how to thread my way through romantic relationships, aside from the basics of being honest and compassionate. Which, good idea in general, hard in the specifics of how to navigate this "I'm not sure I can do girlfriend with you, is friend okay?" bit.
Gah. Romance is hard/weird. Can't I just wait till I'm settled and sprout off a clone like a sponge?
Some of it is the normal stuff. I have two close friends who both live within an hour's drive of Dayton, sirutka here on livejournal and Dana, who has known me since we were both kids at camp together. Between the two of them, I had been going out and doing things once or twice a month.
And then in the end of the spring/beginning of summer, Dana tells me that her husband's best friend John has been asking if I was seeing anyone, would I be interested in hanging out? lady_tigerfish, you might remember him, he was at the Nano write-ins up at Nite Sky, the tall black guy.
I told Dana I wouldn't mind getting to know him, the little I'd talked with him he'd sounded nice and he was a geek, which at least gave us something to talk about. Cue a few double-dates, one single date, and a massive group date down to see Wicked with pretty much his entire friend group outside of Dana and Ellis.
It's been interesting, actually attempting to do the whole date thing. And simultaneously a little scary, because the last time we talked in person it sounded like he was feeling a lot more serious than I was a lot quicker. There's been a hiatus for the past month or so, car troubles for him and no car for me mean that we haven't had much in person contact. I think that's actually been good, it might slow things up a bit for him, and I was really getting to the point where I was worrying that I'd have to hurt him by saying that I wasn't feeling that intense yet. This is the bit where never doing the romance thing before gets difficult, I don't actually know how to thread my way through romantic relationships, aside from the basics of being honest and compassionate. Which, good idea in general, hard in the specifics of how to navigate this "I'm not sure I can do girlfriend with you, is friend okay?" bit.
Gah. Romance is hard/weird. Can't I just wait till I'm settled and sprout off a clone like a sponge?