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But I do think it has brought up some broader issues in my mind.

Most of you are aware of the fact that I am a member of [livejournal.com profile] hogwarts_elite, and that part of that community involves sorting new members. Normally, it goes well. The applicant posts, I look at their answers, make my initial opinions, and then read through at least some of the other votes. It might be that I had considered the applicant for Ravenclaw, but none of the 'Claws seemed to want her. Or I might have lacked a major vibe, but the Gryffindors are all clamoring for him. This week, something has happened to disturb that pattern.



This applicant, http://www.livejournal.com/community/sorting_elite/395944.html#cutid1, posted. Now, on the whole, I wasn't too impressed with his application. There wasn't that much examination or understanding of the text, and there were several answers that were very short. For example, he didn't explain any of his personality traits. I was left unmoved, and I probably would have squibbed him for that, unless the others had seen something I'd missed. So I moved down to the comments.

One of the basic rules of the sorting community was that applicants are not allowed to comment on the votes they recieve. This is supposed to prevent wank. This applicant, apparently, noticed that he was recieving a lot of squib votes, at which point he decided that if he was getting squibbed, he might as well have fun with it. He started commenting back. Rather snarkily in fact. To the point of rudeness, in my mind.

Now, various members of the comm responded in different ways. Some were amused at his audacity, and liked the snarky comments. Others were upset because he was breaking the rules of the comm, rules that we'd been sorted under, and he was rather rude. I fell more in line with the second category.

This was my response to him:

First off, I must appologize to the Slytherins who desperately want you in here. But I cannot, and will not, sort you into a house here.

1. So hard work, loyalty, determination and a desire for justice makes a person useless? Right. Well I'll just toddle off the face of the planet then, eliminate one more useless person. Sure, Hufflepuffs haven't been prominent in the books, but we certainly have a purpose and meaning. Pomona Sprout, at the end of Half Blood Prince, stating that the school should remain open, even if it's only for one person. She was the one to remember the ideals of Hogwarts. That alone proves that Hufflepuffs are not useless.

2. It's called basic common sense. You want to apply to a community that has a reputation for squibing people who don't live up to our standards, you check and see what those standards are. Read the rules through, and then check applications that get in to see what the standard is. Yes, it is high. Perhaps at times too high. But applying here means that you have accepted that standard and want to be judged by it.

3. Read. The. Darned. Rules. There is no reason for you to have not done so. Several people have stated that they would have voted you in if you had obeyed the rules and not commented on the votes. I went through this process two months ago. There were comments that had me scratching my head, wondering what the voter was thinking. There were things said that I desperately wanted to respond to. The same is true for most of our members, I am sure. But we obeyed the rules. It's not fair to let you in when you have disobeyed that big of a rule. And yes, this is the legendary Hufflepuff fairness drive kicking in.

4. While we're on the topic of your comments on the votes, what ever happened to common curtesy? I can understand you trying to be funny, but many of your comments crossed the line and are rude and hurtful.

Squib.

He responded, and we debated for a bit. I really did try to stay polite, and to not attack him personally, but I'm not sure how well I succeeded. We seemed to be coming from entirely different perspectives about how a discussion should be conducted, and that tends to lead to some rather interesting misinterpretation and disagreement.


What I want to hear from you guys, and I want your honest answer, even if you think I'm taking this whole thing far too seriously, is do you think I'm being fair to him? Am I taking the whole thing too seriously? Am I overreacting to his comments to the community members, and to me?

This also ties in with a wider discussion that I've seen happening on several journals about fandom curtesy and ettiquette. Personally, I try to be polite, try not to offend, and I really work at making my criticism, when I have it, about specific points and as respectful as possible. Others favore a blunter policy, thinking that it's more honest. I have a hard time getting into a disagreement with people that I know favor the blunt approach, because I am sensitive, and sometimes things that they say hurt when they don't mean it to. I have a feeling part of my problem with this guy is that he falls into the bluntly honest category, and doesn't care if he offends.

Date: 2005-12-14 04:33 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] spiralstairs.livejournal.com
You are. I talked to pika and it was her friend who was joining for real, realised he wasn't going to get in and tried to have some fun with it. It's all good. Nothing to take too seriously. *HUG*

Date: 2005-12-14 04:35 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] truesalcove.livejournal.com
I think you were perfectly right in what you said and how you handled it. I completely agree with everything you've said here. I wasn't impressed with his application, but I always try to put something nice in there because I notice what other put sometimes in other applications and I truly feel bad for the applicant. I know that some of the comments on mine hurt my feelings, even when they were far nicer than most applicants get. I felt really mean when I posted that one, but then it just blew up. I've been very proud of myself for not going back and responding to the guy. I personally feel that he handled it poorly. One of the comments he posted to one of the younger members was extremely rude, and then another reply he posted to a very nice squib vote was a single curse word. I just don't feel that there is any call for that! If they want to reply, then do it nicely. When he first replied back and was all ^&(@W#$ in the reply, that sealed my vote on it. I don't mind a little cussing now and then, but in an application, I don't feel it's right. Especially when it's in an open part of the community for a book most people consider 'Children's Literature' and those younger kids ARE checking it out.

I don't know. I feel you handled it well and were completely right in everything. *huggles you*

Date: 2005-12-14 04:37 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] heylittleriver.livejournal.com
You're perfectly right in your response. Apologies for swearing, but he's giving me the shits and I'm not even invested in the community. There is simple etiquette in online communities (and the rest of the world) and he clearly didn't care.

*snuggles*

Date: 2005-12-14 04:57 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mari4212.livejournal.com
Okay. Its one of my problem areas, sometimes I have a hard time telling when someone is serious and when they are joking. It gets even harder when I don't know them and all I have is the words, I can't see facial expressions or hear their tone of voice.

*hugs back*

Date: 2005-12-14 04:59 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] murdocsangel.livejournal.com
No, I don't think you're taking it too seriously at all. After reading his application, and the responses he made, I think you're perfectly within your rights to have responded as you did.

Date: 2005-12-14 04:59 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mari4212.livejournal.com
Thank you. I wanted to see the process that someone else came through. And I did feel that a lot of his responses were very out of line. I don't know if I did everything right, but I did try to act according to the dictates of my personal code of online conduct.

*hugs back*

Date: 2005-12-14 05:01 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mari4212.livejournal.com
Thanks. It did upset me that he was trying to apply to a community when he didn't care enough to obey the rules, or be polite to.

*snuggles back*

Date: 2005-12-14 05:03 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mari4212.livejournal.com
Thank you. Right now I just feel too close to the situation, as I am emotionally involved in this community. So while I did feel that I was acting within my rights, I wasn't sure how an objective person would see it.

*hugs*

Date: 2005-12-14 05:47 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dianaish.livejournal.com
I'm sorry! (just sneaking a peek at your journal) but I told him that I was 14, not useless, he had a short app then mine, etc, etc. And all part of what he said after saying that 14 year-olds aren't real people was:
"Call me when I can legally have sex with you."
Thats not cool.

Date: 2005-12-14 05:51 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mari4212.livejournal.com
Not cool at all. That's just hitting below the belt, and rather nasty. I get very protective of my friends and housemates, and I consider you both. *hugs you*

And you're welcome to visit my journal at any time. It's mostly about college stuff, I'll warn you.

Date: 2005-12-14 06:00 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dianaish.livejournal.com
Ugh. I don't want to have sex with him. Thats just... not going to happen and it really is going above and beyond everything.
Yeah! I'm a friend! -hugs-
Woo! I'm used to college stuff with my brother and sister.

Date: 2005-12-14 06:09 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mari4212.livejournal.com
I think he meant it more along the lines of that he didn't value your opinion because he considers you too young to have a valid one.

*hugs back* Of course you are!

As long as you aren't bored.

Date: 2005-12-14 06:58 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] murdocsangel.livejournal.com
*hugs back*

Date: 2005-12-15 03:58 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mari4212.livejournal.com
*hugs again*

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